Navigating Self-harm With Teenagers

What is non-suicidal self-injury?

Non-suicidal self-injury (NSSI) refers to the deliberate act of causing harm to oneself without the intention of ending one's life. Common forms of NSSI include cutting, burning and scratching. Teenagers who engage in NSSI often do so as a way to cope with intense emotional pain, stress, or distress. It can serve as a way to express feelings that are hard to communicate or to gain a temporary sense of relief from overwhelming emotions.

NSSI is typically a sign that a teen is struggling with their emotional or mental health, and it's important for those who engage in NSSI to seek support from mental health professionals. Therapy and counseling can help address the underlying issues and provide healthier coping strategies.

What should parents do when their teen is self-harming?

Stay Calm and Avoid Judgment 

Approach the situation with calmness and empathy. Avoid expressing anger or judgment, as this can increase the teenager’s sense of shame or isolation.

Open a Supportive Dialogue

Gently encourage your teen to talk about their feelings and experiences. Use open-ended questions and listen actively, showing understanding and validation of their emotions.

Seek Professional Help

It's important to involve a mental health professional, such as a therapist or counselor, who specializes in adolescent mental health. They can provide a safe space for your teen to explore their feelings and develop healthier coping strategies.

Create a Safe Environment

Ensure that your home is a safe space for your teen. This may involve removing or securing objects that could be used for self-harm.

Educate Yourself

Learn more about self-harm and mental health issues to better understand what your teen might be going through. This can also help you communicate more effectively with your teen and their healthcare providers.

Encourage Healthy Coping Mechanisms

Help your teen find alternative ways to cope with their emotions, such as engaging in creative activities, exercise, or mindfulness practices.

Monitor for Warning Signs

Keep an eye out for any changes in behavior or mood that could indicate worsening issues. If your teen's self-harming behavior continues or escalates, it’s crucial to seek immediate professional assistance.

Provide Reassurance and Support

Let your teen know that they are not alone and that you are there to support them. Reinforce that seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness.

Take Care of Yourself

Supporting a teen who is self-harming can be emotionally taxing. Make sure to seek support for yourself, whether through counseling, support groups, or talking with trusted friends and family.

Addressing self-harm with sensitivity and compassion can help your teen feel understood and supported, which is a crucial part of their healing process.

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